- Bystander effect is an often misunderstood effect. Often it's an interpretation problem. - Interpreting emergency or difficult situations is tough. We look to others to interpret but everyone feels the same way. Ambiguity leads to bystander effect. People don't want to overreact. - People often provide support in private. But that doesn't really help solve for bystander effect. - Having a friend with us makes us more prone to be brave and not be a bystander. - We can all learn to be brave and speak up. It's not an innate behaviour. - People who stand up to bullies are higher in empathy but also crucially are less worries about being liked. - In a group setting our responses change at a neurological level. Our brains not only have to think about our behaviour but also needs to anticipate how others might act. ---- #curiousminds 179: Marissa King on Feeling Good About Networking