- There is this idea of 'separation of tasks' in Adlerian psychology. The idea is similar to the idea of [[Boundaries]] in relationships. - For example in ViKa we think that the children should make their own choices and decisions. This is because it is their task to learn not the adults task to learn. - The easiest way to tell whose task something is is to simply try to think who the receives the result of the task. --- Studying is the child’s task. A parent’s handling of that by commanding the child to study is, in effect, an act of intruding on another person’s task. One is unlikely to avert a collision in this way. We need to think with the perspective of ‘whose task is this?’ and continually separate one’s own tasks from other people’s tasks. - [[The Courage To Be Disliked]] There is a simple way to tell whose task it is. Think, Who ultimately is going to receive the end result brought about by the choice that is made? When the child has made the choice of not studying, ultimately, the end result of that decision—not being able to keep up in class or to get into the preferred school, for instance—does not have to be received by the parents. Clearly, it is the child who has to receive it. In other words, studying is the child’s task. - [[The Courage To Be Disliked]]