- New language to think about gender differences. Using gendered language leads to fights and toxicity so instead of masculine or feminine use ingressive and congressive. - Ingressive - Looking inward, individualistic, competitive, confident, independence - Congressive - Looking outward, community driven, collaborative, circumspect, interdependence - Consider [[Congressive]] as value for ViKa - Ideas are from [[Eugenia Cheung]] in [[x + y]]