- Adlerian psychology posits that we are in control of our lifestyle and happiness. We simply don't have the courage to be happy and take control. - For example someone might never begin to do something claiming that they don't have the time. But this could simply be because they lack the courage and they want to always be able to say "I can do it if I try". ---- Adlerian psychology is a psychology of courage. Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn’t that you lack competence. You just lack courage. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy. - [[The Courage To Be Disliked]] I have a young friend who dreams of becoming a novelist, but who never seems to be able to complete his work. According to him, his job keeps him too busy, and he can never find enough time to write novels, and that’s why he can’t complete work and enter it for writing awards. But is that the real reason? No! It’s actually that he wants to leave the possibility of ‘I can do it if I try’ open, by not committing to anything. He doesn’t want to expose his work to criticism, and he certainly doesn’t want to face the reality that he might produce an inferior piece of writing and face rejection. - [[The Courage To Be Disliked]]