- Lot of times we tend to have "faux feelings" based on how we might view things. For example I think I have a negative relationship with anger and sometimes I bottle it. I need to get comfortable accessing the real feelings underneath. - The idea is closely connected to [[Emotional Blindspots]] --- "If anger was not OK in your childhood environment, you may get weepy and look sad when you get into an argument with your partner. If sadness was regarded as weak, you may appear angry and push people away when you feel sad. You may feel guilty when you feel angry toward someone you care about. These “faux feelings” can keep you stuck if you don’t access the emotions underneath." - [Link](http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_ways_we_avoid_our_feelings_and_what_to_do_instead)