- Self affirmation is if you tell yourself you can do something or that you got unlucky and that's why you couldn't do it. - Self acceptance would be when you accept that you weren't able to do something and think about how to go about changing it. - We should try to move from self affirmation to self acceptance. - Also see quote on [[Controllables - Kurt Vonnegut]] by Kurt Vonnegut --- Self-affirmation is making suggestions to oneself, such as ‘I can do it’ or ‘I am strong’, even when something is simply beyond one’s ability. It is a notion that can bring about a superiority complex, and may even be termed a way of living in which one lies to oneself. With self-acceptance, on the other hand, if one cannot do something, one is simply accepting ‘one’s incapable self’ as is, and moving forward so that one can do whatever one can. It is not a way of lying to oneself. To put it more simply, say you’ve got a score of sixty per cent, but you tell yourself I just happened to get unlucky this time around, and the real me is one hundred per cent. That is self-affirmation. By contrast, if one accepts oneself as one is, as sixty per cent, and thinks to oneself, How should I go about getting closer to one hundred per cent?—that is self-acceptance - [[Self Affirmation vs Self Acceptance]]