- The constant need or obligation to be pretty, happy, calm, generous and attentive to the need of others. - The is not typically a problem unless you feel that you deserve to be punished or that you're worth any less if you don't meet those criteria. - No one has this moral obligation despite whatever you might feel. - [[Being a Taker not a Giver]] is also important - Asking for help and wanting to be cared for is another way of being [[Congressive]] ----- #curiousminds 184 - Amelia Nagoski on Banishing Burnout