- Rather than asking future questions like "What is your favourite subject?" it's better to ask "What do you like doing?". - In this way we frame things in the present and reduce the pressure of each question. It also allows children or mentees to find their own patterns from their experiences. --- One of the most effective shifts I’ve made with Rett has come from what I’ve learned in mentoring. I never ask, “What do you want to be?” or “What is your favorite subject?” Rather, I ask, “What do you like doing?” “What parts of that do you like most?” And in the course of our conversation we come up with a list of what we call the “ing” words. In experience after experience, he has accumulated more and more “ings” and is beginning to see a pattern. - Dane Tavenneer in [[Prepared]]