Today while talking to my co-facilitators I realised that one of the biggest things that leads to fights amongst children is the desire to have a resource immediately. While there are quite a few play things at the center there are always occasions where two learners want the same thing to play with. Invariably the dispute is brought to us and we end up having to ask one learner to wait for a few minutes until the other learner is done playing. This is something the children hate and they find it hard to trust that the learners will actually hand it over. Perhaps the constant fighting for resources in their daily lives has led them to such an understanding. We’ve found that when you give an explicit time or have a written list of who will be using the resource next, the children are much more trusting. These are things we take for granted but really make a world of difference. Today I tried to allocate the football that we have in 5 minute cycles and the children were able to follow such a system quite well.  The same effect is probably what leads to stealing of resources as well. When the children feel that something may not be available to them later they tend to take and keep things for themselves. Initially we had a struggle with colouring sheets and children tended to hoard them in their bags. Now that we have an abundance of colouring sheets and constantly replace them the stealing of these has reduced drastically. The children seemed to have started to trust their peers and are more willing to participate in the idea of community resources. It is easy to get frustrated when these children fight or steal but it is important to remember that we can’t change the years of learned experiences that these children have fighting for resources overnight.