As mentioned on [[2019-05-31]] we had set up some norms that we wanted to follow at the center. To enforce these norms we decided that each learner would get three chances per day. The first time they would be warned, the second they would be sent to a room to reflect and finally they would be sent home for the day if they still continued to break the norms. This was agreed upon by the children and the hope was that with this we would establish a fair and just system that everyone can follow. Today, I realised how difficult it was to follow through on this supposedly fair and just system. One of the children who was in third standard was constantly hitting others and throwing stones at them. At the same time another boy in sixth standard was doing the same. As decided earlier, I started to enforce the mechanisms we had set in place. Everything went well until they both had been given two strikes. Both the boys agreed that they should not have done what they had and went to the room to reflect for five minutes. However, they continued to throw stones at others. At this point, I was forced to send them home since this was something we had all agreed upon. The older boy agreed to this and started to make his way home. The younger boy however refused to leave. I thought I would try to get everyone involved in a circle and work together to send him home but getting everyone involved in the past has led to ostracising and bullying from the others as well so I avoided this.  It seemed like there was no real way to have the learner leave. I negotiated with him that there was not much time left in the day and if he left today he could come in the next day and if not he would be forced to skip the next day but this too didn’t seem to work. Finally I ended up physically escorting the boy outside but he kept coming back in and there was really nothing I could do. It seemed really unfair to the other boy who had been sent home for the exact same reason. I wonder if there is some merit in having a co-facilitator who the learners obey. I’ve noticed the learners sometimes prefer the more strict approach and often take their problems to a more strict facilitator. I’m really not sure how to go about this without really adopting a strict attitude and an even more hierarchical structure. Though I did try to make myself firm and clear it seemed as though this boy would just not take me seriously.